No I haven’t fallen off the face of the earth…life just sometimes has a way of passing me by so quickly I barely have time to stop and take a breath.
It’s been forever and a day it seems since my last post. Where do I begin? Life has been a roller coaster ride these past few months. sometimes feeling like I’m careening off the tracks and other times a slow cruise around a gentle bend. I suppose it’s really the same for most people…..
A quick catch up on where I’m at in life – work is well work – I love it and I hate it all at the same time. I’m mostly loving it now as I’m working on a couple of new and interesting special projects and events (yay me!). On the homefront the littles are still alive and kicking which some days is a miracle unto itself. That’s all I can say nicely about them for now….Momma has a semblance of a personal life….not much but a little.
I’m a little sad to say that things didn’t work out with Sweet P…but really in my head I knew they never would. The heart was another story but hey you have to live and learn. There was nothing dramatic or overly interesting about the end of the ‘relationship’ it just stopped being there….well no I’m lying there was an awfully emotional situation that I mistakenly thought had brought us closer. Reality check! It did not and really it was the catalyst to bring ‘us’ to an end. When I look back I do believe I imagined there was more to the whole ‘us’ thing than there ever really was……reality bites. It’s funny I don’t really miss the romantical bits we had (there really weren’t many) but I do wish we were still chatty mates as we did get along quite well.
As far as the littles go it seems as if the whole separation thing is not so easy for them to adjust to and they are firey balls of anger for the most part these days. This has lead to some pretty tough times and lots of hormonal teenage/pre-teenage angst. I really feel like a failure in this respect lately….whoever said parenting was easy lied…like totally lied. It’s not easy when there are two of you and it’s super tricky when there’s only one parent around most of the time. I can’t change the situation but I’m trying to be a better listener and hopefully a better momma.
We are testing out weekly family nights and will be starting some family counseling next month too. Family night numero uno was a hit with dinner and a movie so hopefully we can build on that. Counseling may be another story but we can all use an unbiased third perspective on our lives every now and again. and besides the littles requested it and I know I’m not a perfect mom (not even close!) so I’m looking forward to working through some of our issues.
With all this fun stuff at work and adventures with the littles you may be asking if I’ve had time for me….why yes I have! But let me take a breath and save that for the next post.
Recently I took my two boys on vacation – this was the very first week long vacation we’ve been on. and it was a real fam jam! We traveled to Florida with my parents, sister, brother in law and my nephew. We stayed in a friends 4 bedroom house. Should be a great time right??
Yeah well shoulda, woulda, coulda…..I mean it wasn’t all bad I did have a good time but with such an array of ages we all wanted to do different things while we were away. My boys are 11 and 18 and not the closest of brothers. Still I had been looking forward to this for ages. A few days before we left I got the flu 😦 . I barely made the drive to the airport and was not in a great mood. Bring in two boys with raging hormones and are afraid to fly and let the good times roll!!! You would think that they would be ecstatic to miss school for a whole week and travel to the land of fun and sun. Yeah not so much. I really had no clue if my 18 year old was even going to get on the plane until we actually took off.
Once we got to the Orlando I was in true vacation mode and nothing was going to ruin my trip. We had some great times – visiting Downtown Disney, Magic Kingdom, Universal Studios, Universal City Walk, mini golf, shopping at the outlet malls and some nice meals out. We also spent some quality family time at the rental house playing games, swimming and enjoying each others company. My 2 year old nephew was adorable!
Despite the fun times and adventures I still felt a bit stressed at times trying to make sure my boys each got to do things they enjoyed, weren’t fighting with each other and were respectful when they were doing something that wasn’t on their list. Man there were moments I just wanted to pack them up and ship them off. I couldn’t help feeling a bit embarrassed by their behaviour at times – they came across as ungrateful, spoiled or just down right miserable. I didn’t raise them to be this way and couldn’t believe how selfish they were being. Overall it was a great week but I know now I have some more parenting to do – these two need to realize how fortunate we are as a family to be able to get away together and enjoy so many great attractions.
I can’t help but question my parenting skills after this so I’m hoping I’m not alone. Besides I didn’t let them ruin my time and dragged them to all sorts of wonderful things at Disney – magic kingdom and Downtown Disney. Hopefully they learned you can still enjoy things even if they are geared towards younger kids. I mean I became a pin collector at Disney in a flash and convinced my youngest it was super fun to trade pins with the employees there. I also forced them to smile, take pictures and buy a souvenir at the Magic Kingdom (I know horrible mother). Hopefully one day they appreciate the actual time and money spent on making this a super fabulous Florida vacation.
We’ve been back now for a couple weeks and I’m still playing catch up at work and home but all in all despite the drama from the boys we had a great time with one another and really loved spending the week with the extended family!
Soooo I bet you’ve been wondering where I’ve been right? Well the summer has past, the days and months trucking along with barely a moment to pause and smell the roses. I can’t say much has changed except that work has been crazy busy!
My Sweet P is still kicking around – as aloof as ever. I often wonder why I bother continuing to attempt to engage in a relationship with him….I mean we are more pen pals than anything else. I rarely see him – in fact I think it’s been a month since we have been in the same room. For some unknown reason I still carry a torch for him, although it is dimming lately. Have you ever had those people who just give you butterflies every time you see them and sometimes just when you think about them? He does it for me…but at the same time he infuriates me with his constant excuses about why he can’t get together for a date. In fact I don’t even know where he lives and we’ve been seeing each other since May. Weird right??
I’m fairly active on this one particular meeting site and have been texting and chatting with a few guys. I’ve even been asked out by several but I keep finding excuses not to go, to cancel or even reschedule. The heart wants what the heart wants no matter what the brain tries to tell it. I’m in no rush and I don’t need a guy to complete my life so for now Sweet P has a front row seat in my heart.
The good news is I’m feeling great about myself! I’m becoming slowly more outgoing and finding it easier to make friends and chat online with guys to see if we have a connection. I’ve made some great on-line friends and even considered meeting some. Yes considered it – actually met them?? Well no I haven’t done that yet. Actually I’m telling lies. Yes I have – one guy who we’ll call 6 pack. Funny story there for another time.
But running a close second is Upstate NY. But that story is much too long and complicated to get into on my first post back. Let’s just say we hit it off immediately but there are complications to the right and obstacles to the left.
On a completely different topic I just got back from a much needed family vacation. Enjoyed a few of the funnest attractions to be had in the Orlando area. Can’t wait to tell you more about the whole vacation but again gotta stay on track – well sort of.
It’s good to be back writing again. Remind me that it’s a good outlet if I disappear again! And now we have lots to talk about. so stay tuned for tales of 6 pack, Upstate NY and vacation good times. And now to take a minute for myself to just breathe and enjoy this beautiful end of summer day!